BothReady user guide

1. At a glance

The fee goes to BothReady and is the same for everyone. Nobody else receives any money: neither members nor venues.

2. Who does what

The app is only for adults (aged 18 and over), and for meetings between a woman and a man. You take part as “Woman” or “Man”; this choice and your date of birth can’t be changed after the first save.

3. Getting started and your profile

Signing up

• You sign in with your mobile number and a six-digit code sent by SMS. There’s no password.
• Accepted numbers: Cyprus (+357) and Greece (+30). The code is valid for 5 minutes; you can ask for a new one after 60 seconds.
• You stay signed in for up to 14 days; after that, you’re asked for a new code. If 12 months go by without use, the account needs to be confirmed by the team.

Your profile

• Required: “Profile name”, date of birth, city (Nicosia, Limassol, Larnaca, Paphos, Athens, Thessaloniki), what you’re looking for, smoking, the age range you’re interested in.
• “A few words about you”: up to 1,000 characters; needed for your profile to be approved.
• Optional: occupation, interests, languages, height.
• With “Show my profile to compatible members”, you can pause whenever you like.

Photos

• Only with the in-app front camera, not from your gallery. Up to 6 photos.
• Each new photo stays hidden until it’s been checked.
• A woman’s photos are seen only by men she has chosen. A man’s photos are seen by compatible women in his city.

Profile review

Photos and texts are checked automatically by an artificial intelligence model that runs on our own computers, never on a third-party service. It checks:

• the photo: one person, a clear face, good lighting, no inappropriate content and no visible contact details;
• the texts: contact details (even when written out in words), inappropriate or commercial content, a name that doesn’t look real. The check runs again every time you change your texts.

Once your texts and one photo from the camera pass, your profile is approved automatically and shows as “Profile approved”. When the model isn’t sure, a person from the team decides.

If your profile or a photo isn’t approved, you see the reason and what to change in “Profile”:

• For reasons to do with the texts (contact details, inappropriate or commercial text, the name, an incomplete profile): you correct them and save, and a new check runs.
• For “fake profile”, “suspected minor” or “another reason”: only a person from the team reviews the profile again.

“Profile approved” only means that the profile passed these checks. It is not a verification of identity, age or face: the app does nothing of the kind.

4. Likes

• Woman She sees the compatible men in her city: ages within both people’s ranges, the same answer to “What are you looking for?”, and respect for a preference for non-smokers. She can like whoever she wants (up to 50 new likes every 24 hours).
• Man In “Interested in you”, he sees only the women who liked him: name, age, photos. He doesn’t learn how many there are in total. He replies “I like you too”, and then the interest is mutual.
• A like expires after 30 days; she can renew it or undo it whenever she wants, without him being told.
• “Hide from him”: a woman can hide from a man; he doesn’t see her anywhere, and he isn’t told.

Here needs a mutual like. At events, you don’t need one.

5. The three ways to meet

There’s one thing to learn. The only difference is how you come to be in the same place; from then on, everything works the same.

The same in all three

• “I’m here”: one location from your phone, only when you tap, with the app open. It’s a declaration, not proof of identity. Locations from fake-location apps are rejected.
• Her three choices:
  • “I’ll approach him”: he only learns that someone who chose him is there and would like to approach him; never who, or how many.
  • “Let him see me”: he sees her name, age and photos.
  • “Not now”: he learns nothing.
• Undo within 2 minutes: after “I’ll approach him” or “Let him see me”, she has 2 minutes to undo it. During that time he learns nothing and isn’t charged. After that, the decision is final.
• One decision at a time: she can decide to meet someone else 20 minutes after her previous decision. That way, several men aren’t charged at once.
• No codes or scanning: the meet-up starts with her decision (or, at a date, when you’re both there).
• The next day: “Would you like to meet again?” With two “Yes” answers, the contact card opens.

6. Here

A meet-up now, where you are, with someone you have a mutual like with.

1. Both You tap “Turn on Here for 3 hours”. The app takes your location once and makes you visible in an area of about 200 metres. You stay visible even if you walk around; to change place, you tap “New location”.
2. Man To become visible, he needs €5 available: it’s held while he’s visible.
3. Woman If a man she has a mutual like with is visible nearby, only she is told, and she sees his name, age and photos. He learns nothing.
4. Woman She chooses “I’ll approach him”, “Let him see me” or “Not now”. She has 2 minutes to undo it.
5. Man When her decision becomes final, he’s told (“Someone would like to approach you”, or he sees who she is) and is charged the €5 that was held. If his balance covers it, another €5 is held and he stays visible; otherwise his visibility ends.
6. Woman For 30 minutes after her final decision, she can write to him so that you can find each other: within the 200 metres, you could be in different venues. She writes first; he can reply once she has. Text only, with no phone numbers, links or accounts. Either of you can close the chat, and the messages are deleted when it closes. After “I’ll approach him”, he only sees “Her”, unless she tells him herself who she is.
7. Both You meet in person. “Would you like to meet again?” comes the next day.

7. BothReady events

An organised form of Here, with a guest list: the team sets a city, a public place and a time (e.g. Friday 20:00–23:00). Taking part is free for everyone.

1. Both On the “Events” tab, you see the events in your city and tap “I’m going”. You can withdraw it until the event starts.
2. Woman Before the event, she sees which compatible men are going and marks the ones she likes. The mark is private: they never find out.
3. Man He doesn’t see any women, or how many are going.
4. Both At the place, you tap “I’m here” (from 30 minutes before the start until the end, near the place). Man €5 is then held until the end of the event. You need €5 available: without it, “I’m here” isn’t possible, so top up before you set off.
5. Woman She finds out which of the men she marked are there, and decides as with Here: “I’ll approach him”, “Let him see me” or “Not now”. No mutual like is needed: it’s enough that she likes him and that he came.
6. Man He’s charged the €5 only when a woman makes a final decision to meet him. If no woman decides to, the €5 comes back automatically at the end.
7. Both The next day: “Would you like to meet again?”

If you tap “I’m going” and don’t come, you don’t lose any money, but it counts against your reliability. If the team cancels the event, anything held or charged goes back to your balance.

8. Dates organised by the woman

The woman chooses where and when, and invites up to 5 men who suit her. The first to accept gets the date. In the app: Events → Dates (she sees her dates, he sees his invitations); “New date” and invitations awaiting an answer also appear on the “Home” tab.

1. Woman She taps “New date” and sets the city, a public place (from our list, or an address she enters, confirming that it’s a public place and not a home), the day and time (from 3 hours to 14 days ahead) and a note of up to 140 characters, with no contact details.
2. Woman A €5 deposit is held from her balance. It’s there so that nobody sets up a date for a laugh, and it comes back to her as soon as she says “I’m here” on time.
3. Woman She invites up to 5 compatible men in the city (up to 2 active dates at a time).
4. Man He gets “You’ve been invited to a date”. He sees her name, age and profile details, without a photo (not even after accepting: she recognises him from his photos), the city, the place (an address she entered shows only as “Public place”), the day, the time and her note. The note is one-way: there’s no reply or chat.
5. Man He taps “Accept”: €5 is held from his balance. The first to accept gets the date and sees the exact address; the others only see “The invitation has closed”. He can’t accept two dates that overlap.
6. Both At the place, from 15 minutes before to 20 minutes after the set time, you each tap “I’m here”. The woman’s deposit comes back straight away. If you’ve both said it, the man is charged the €5 at the end of the “I’m here” window (20 minutes after the set time), not when she arrives. She’s told when he arrives; he isn’t told when she does, not even through his balance: she approaches him, and she can see his photos until the end of the “I’m here” window.
7. Both The next day: “Would you like to meet again?”

If nobody accepts, the invitations expire 24 hours after they were sent or 2 hours before the date (whichever comes first), and the deposit comes back in full.

9. Money: holds, charges, refunds

The balance

• You have a balance in euros, from which amounts are held and charged. It doesn’t expire and can’t be transferred to anyone else.
• Topping up: packs of €5, €15 and €25 (1, 3 and 5 introductions), through Google Play or the App Store. No bonuses.
• In Profile → Balance and payments, you see:
  • Available balance: what can be held or charged now;
  • Held: an amount set aside for an opportunity, which will be charged or returned;
  • your Transactions and Top-ups.
• No debt: nothing is held or charged without an available balance. If it isn’t enough, the app suggests a top-up.

When money is held, charged or returned

Why it works this way: the man pays for the opportunity to meet a woman in person, not for how it goes. If she turns him down in person, for whatever reason, the charge stands. If no opportunity comes up, the hold comes back automatically.

Dates: what happens at the end

The outcome is settled automatically 20 minutes after the time of the date.

Dates: cancellations

You can cancel up to 15 minutes before the set time. From then on, only “I’m here” counts. Cancellations don’t count against your reliability; only an absence does.

Refunds

• A charge is refunded only if we cancel the event, if a safety report is upheld, or if there’s a technical error.
• Refunds always go to your balance, never in cash.
• For purchases from Google Play or the App Store, money can only be refunded through Google or Apple, under their own procedures.

10. After the meet-up: the contact card

1. The next day, you both get the question “Would you like to meet again?” You answer “Yes” or “No” privately, within 7 days. The other person never learns of a “No”.
2. If you both say “Yes”, each of you chooses what to share: your confirmed mobile number, an Instagram username, or both. There’s no free text.
3. The other person’s details are shown for 24 hours from the first time you open them. You can share details for 30 days after the double “Yes”; after that, whatever you shared is deleted.

A block closes the card straight away and deletes whatever had been shared.

11. Reliability

• If you tap “I’m going” or accept a date and don’t come, it shows in your reliability. Reliability doesn’t cost money.
• The first absence brings a notice. A second within 90 days brings a 30-day pause: of “I’m going”, of creating dates (for women) or of accepting dates (for men).
• Cancellations by the team and closures for safety reasons never count.

12. Safety

• Meet only at public places. Never at anyone’s home.
• If someone’s photo wasn’t of them, report them with that reason: the team checks the account.
• If you’re in immediate danger, call 112.

13. Privacy and your data

• Location: only when you turn on Here or tap “I’m here”, with the app open. No tracking in the background, and no distances or map of other members.
• Notifications: they only say “There’s an update for you”. No names, faces or places ever appear on your lock screen; you see them inside the app.
• “My data” (in “Profile”), in four tabs:
  • Copy: a file with your own data and your photos (you need to have signed in with SMS in the last 10 minutes);
  • Number: change your mobile number, with a code sent to the new number;
  • Devices: sign out of all devices;
  • Delete: permanently delete your account by typing the word “DELETE”.
• What deletion removes: profile, photos, likes, contact cards, notifications, devices, mobile number. What is kept: financial records, meet-ups as a record, reports and blocks. You can’t delete your account while an amount is held or a participation is active. Your balance isn’t paid out in cash.

14. What BothReady doesn’t do

• It doesn’t certify anyone’s identity, age or face, and it doesn’t compare faces.
• It has no chat with strangers.
• It doesn’t show distances, maps of members or where anyone is.
• It doesn’t transfer money between members: nobody else receives any money.
• It doesn’t give cash, bonuses or credit, and it doesn’t create debt.

15. Frequently asked questions